Low Self Confidence and relationships.

Low self confidence and our personal feelings about ourselves is something a lot of people try not to think about. It’s very easy to push your personal feelings to the back of your mind and shut their annoying add in a little box to try and forget all about it. The trouble with that approach is the detrimental harm it causes to our lives and those who love us. Low self confidence in relationships can cause confusion where otherwise there wouldn’t be any.

After all how can you love somebody else when you are struggling to love yourself? Or worse how can they confidently love you when you are unintentionally giving them the impression they shouldn’t because you don’t? If you suffer with low self confidence then here are four reasons you should seriously consider embarking on that long journey to self love and appreciation. Here are 4 ways low self confidence can damage your relationships,

Body language

Our body language is something we can’t always control. It mainly consists of unconscious movements. How we are feeling and what we are thinking communicates itself using our body language. For example when a person lies they may feel nervous which will then make their true feelings clear in their body language. There are techniques that can make you appear more confident, if want to know how to appear more confident you can Click here. But ultimately our body language often gives us away when we aren’t feeling good about ourselves, from the way we walk to the way we react.


Yes, believe it or not if we aren’t feeling confident regarding our body or the way we look we will subconsciously choose clothes that we can hide behind. Think oversized jumpers and baggy clothing. This is a vicious circle. Choosing shitty clothes then results in the act of scrutinising your appearance because you’re wearing clothes you yourself deem as unflattering. This of course, only serves to cement the low opinion of yourself you have created because you are wearing clothes you don’t find attractive. Here ladies and gents lies a never ending cycle.


When we wrongly believe we aren’t ‘good enough’ it comes across in our attitude towards others. This is a broad subject as we as human beings are all unique when it comes to the sinister shit in the depths of our messy minds. some examples are, becoming snappy and withdrawn, causing you to spend a majority of your time shut away from social situations. Driving a wedge between yourself and those around you. another manifestation can be the opposite reaction. Feeling clingy and needy can cause you to unknowingly push others way by coming across as jealous and overbearing. We all react differently as our attitudes differ from one another. No matter how you react personally, it is very likely it will have an adverse effect on the people you love.


Whilst some people can become shy and nervous leading to other mental health issues like, social anxiety. Others sadly become self destructive, often turning to drugs and or alcohol to numb the pain and feel euphoric for a little while. Low self confidence and the way you feel about yourself has a phenomenal impact on your character and behaviour, especially towards others. when you unfairly judge yourself all of the apparent ‘flaws’ lodge themselves so deeply that it can cause the same reaction as paranoia. Convincing yourself that the people around you think you’re as rubbish you believe you are. This can often push you to repeatedly question the way your loved ones feel about you and why they are choosing to spend their time with you. Inevitably, this can eventually lead to unnecessary arguments. They can easily come between you and the people you care about.

The list above is by no means the only effects low self confidence has on us and the people we surround ourselves with. There are many issues that have a different impact on each of us individually. Self confidence is something we should all acquire to stop us feeling so crap and to enjoy life with those we love. As hard as it may seem its time you began the journey of self love and appreciation.

If you are suffering with emotional difficulties and problems with your mental health or are just struggling in general please do seek professional help from a trained medical professional. You can also go to the support page on this site for information relating to services and organisations dedicated to helping anyone who needs their help and support. For immediate assistance if you are in the UK please call The Samaritans 24 hour helpline on 116

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